have you ever had one
of those fights where you are going back and forth at each other, and
somewhere along the way, what you are arguing about gets lost and you
are all of a sudden bickering over semantics?
me: "no, what you said was..."
you: "i did not say that. you didn't hear me. i said..."
you go back and forth, and back and forth, and at some point, you probably realize that
you have no clue what you were arguing about in the first place, or that the original issue is
just completely buried. that was the scene last week as my sister and i were going at it with one another.
"i don't even know what we're arguing about," i said. "this is
pointless. i don't want to have this conversation anymore." i was about
ready to hang up the phone. under normal circumstances, the conversation would have ended then and
there. but with her, there was no way i was going to get away with
tossing aside the conversation just because i was over it.
"just because you're done with the conversation doesn't mean it's going to end. you can't just be done with it. you have to listen to the other person. you don't listen!" she said. at this point, we were virtually yelling. i think my blood pressure had risen to a critical stage. let's just say we were having an intense sister to sister moment.
i bit my tongue and listened. i sucked it up and apologized. and within a minute or two, the fight ended and true to form, we were giggling about how ridiculous the whole situation was. what i
was reminded of through this little spat though, is the fact that there are
very few people who call me out on my b.s. and will not let me just
steam roll them... when i say i'm done, i usually expect that things are done. when i say i'm over a topic, i'm over it and expect others to move on along side me. but tell me that i'm being unreasonable or bratty? tell me that i just can't end a conversation because i'm through with it? it's rare that people "stand up" to me. and i can stand to have a few of those folks in my life-
just a few though, to occasionally put me in check when necessary.
it was a really laid back weekend, thank goodness. i think it was just what the
doctor ordered. friday evening, i ran in the rain, friday night i locked myself
out of my apartment and sat in the hallway drinking bud light until
someone could come to let me in. pitiful. saturday: dixie bones bbq,
potomac mall, pool time, laziness and more laziness. sunday was
essentially a northern virginia road show which included gom ba woo, bubble tea at eden center and finally back to DC which included tono sushi later in the night.
that's all folks!
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